Comparison often sneaks in unnoticed, wrapping itself around our hearts when we least expect it.
For single women in the body of Christ, it can feel especially heavy. You see others being blessed with marriages, families, or milestones you’ve been praying for, and a whisper sneaks into your thoughts: God must have forgotten about me.
What makes this feeling so potent is that it often stems from a deeper place – a father wound.
Maybe your earthly father didn’t provide the love, affirmation, or attention you needed. Maybe he was absent or simply didn’t know how to show up in the way your heart longed for.
Over time, those unmet needs shape how we view God.
With a father who made you feel overlooked or unimportant, it’s natural to project those feelings onto your Heavenly Father, even without realising it.
But here’s where the truth of Scripture brings hope. Psalm 27:10 tells us, “When my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me up.”
While earthly fathers are flawed, God’s love is unwavering and constant. He doesn’t overlook a moment of your life.
Yet God sees those hidden wounds, and He is lovingly waiting for you to hand them over to Him.
It’s easy to look around and feel left behind. You see someone else’s engagement photos, a sister sharing about her growing family, or a friend celebrating another milestone, and suddenly, your blessings feel smaller, even invisible.
The enemy loves to use these moments of weakness to plant filthy lies in our hearts.
The question is: are you listening to them?
He wants us to believe that God is withholding something good and that His plans for us aren’t as special as His plans for others. He quite literally wants us to turn our faces away from Him.
We can easily rebuke this with Romans 8:28: “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”
God isn’t holding back from you. His timing is perfect, even when it doesn’t make sense.
The father wound runs deep, often shaping how we approach relationships, trust and our prayer life. If we don’t bring the wound to God, it can quietly influence how we see Him, it impacts our singleness, which should mostly, in my opinion, feel productive and joyful.
God will never shy away from your pain. He’s not distant or indifferent. “The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.” – Psalm 34:18
He knows the ache you feel, and He’s ready to step into those places with healing and truth and pour fresh oil into the wounds.
Healing doesn’t happen overnight, but it starts with honesty. Recognising where those feelings come from and bringing them to God is the first step.
How can you be honest with Him today?
When comparison whispers lies, fight back with His Word. Meditate on promises like Isaiah 49:15-16: “Behold, I have graven thee upon the palms of my hands; thy walls are continually before me.”
You are not overlooked. You are not forgotten.
After you’ve been honest, share with Him that you will choose to celebrate the blessings in others’ lives. When you rejoice with your sisters, it shifts your focus from scarcity to abundance. Their joy doesn’t take away from God’s plans for you.
Finally, take a moment to reflect on the goodness already in your life. Your salvation, your identity in Christ, your eternal future with Him – these are gifts beyond measure. James 1:17 reminds us, “Every good and perfect gift is from above.”
Psalm 139:16 says that every day of your life is already known to God. He’s not forgotten you or left you behind. His plans are intricate, intentional, and perfect for you.
When comparison tempts you to doubt, remember this: you are deeply loved by a Father who never fails. The same God who gave His Son for you is with you in every step of your journey.
So, let this season be about more than waiting. Let it be about healing, trusting, and walking closely with the One who sees you fully.
Jesus died to give you a life filled with purpose, love, and abundance – not one defined by unmet desires.
Sister, the truth is that your story is still being written as we speak.
And it’s a beautiful story of growth, faith, and the perfect love of your Heavenly Father.
